Understanding of Grief: Children aged 9-12 years



  • Understands that death is final
  • Concern that his/her thoughts, words, behaviors caused the death
  • Thinks about life milestones without their loved one (graduation, marriage, etc.)
  • Heightened awareness of death. Concerns that other loved ones will die
  • Formulating spiritual concepts

How to help:

  • Offer comfort and support
  • Expect emotional reactions and mood swings and be patient and gentle
  • Encourage healthy and creative outlets drawing, reading, art, music, etc.
  • Find peer support
  • Communicate openly and answer questions honestly. Be available to talk and listen to their concerns
  • Give them choices in the mourning process


If you are looking to support a grieving child, have questions or concerns, we are available to help. Please call us at the office at (231) 947-6453 or by email at GoodGrief@MyMichaelsPlace.net and talk with one of our grief support staff.


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