Understanding of Death: Teens

Concept:

• Understands that death is final
• Concern that his/her thoughts, words, behaviors caused the death
• Thinks about life milestones without their loved one (graduation, marriage, etc.)
• High death awareness. Concerns that other loved ones will die
• May sense own impending death
• Need to be in control of feelings. Emotional displays are weakness.
• Internal conflict with need to be independent but feeling dependent and in need of support

How to help:

• Allow regressive behavior and provide comfort
• Expect emotional reactions and mood swings and be patient and gentle
• Encourage healthy and creative outlets drawing, reading, art, music, etc.
• Find peer support. Support relationships with understanding adult mentors
• Communicate openly and answer questions honestly. Be available to talk and listen to their concerns.
• Share your grief
• Give them choices in the mourning process
• Watch for high risk behaviors

If you are looking to support a grieving child, have questions or concerns, we are available to help. Please call us at the office at (231) 947-6453 or by email at GoodGrief@MyMichaelsPlace.net and talk with one of our grief support staff.